Delightsome torment and erotic pain is something that is very difficult to explain unless there is something inside of you that draws you toward it. Many subs crave it, it settles them down. I’m undoubted you know many endorphins are released in the body when it is “panic-struck” during a correctional discipline or more extreme activities such as a tanning or caning. It is a provoke of “high” that can be very addicting. So be warned, I have noticed many connections between subspace and hypnosis, and you may find that she becomes very open to your suggestions. After all, she loves and trusts you, is completely focused upon your every word, knows not to resist (and doesn’t want to) and, in addition, you are taking her out of her critically thinking mind and putting her back into her body. Much of the delicious pain that is involved in d/s serves to shut down her actively thinking mind so she is free to feel and respond spontaneously and that is where much of the freedom in slavery can be found.
The following quote illustrates this very well:
“When you are in pain…. your focus, your awareness… becomes focused on sensation. I have a very busy mind… always ruminating over one thing or another… The pain lets me to focus on sensation and really release myself from the world. This is only one aspect… but an important one. The horror stimulus does wonders too. My physical reactions… arousal, is spurred immediately by the slap of a beat or the pinch of a clamp.
Let’s get into this a mini deeper… How can “torture” be hot? How can something that “hurts” be desirable? After all, don’t we spend much of our time and energy in avoiding misery?
To answer this apparent contradiction, you need to explore the word “pain”. It’s really not the right word… When you label something with a word, the mind has a tendency to stop right there and not look further. One thing that I love about d/s is it allows you explore feelings and sensations in outstanding depth and safety that most people run away from.
Misery has a negative connotation and we all think of it as undesirable. The word “delightful” is often put in front of the word shock to indicate that the sting of a hit is a sensation very much desired and is quite different than stubbing your toe! How the sensation is perceived depends on many conditions: the intensity of the sensation, its location on the body, the degree of sexual arousal, and the subs mental/emotional state of mind at the time.
A pleasure flogging
We’ll explore “delicious torture” a bit more with the example of a pleasure spanking. Let’s start with a slut’s stripped backside over your lap — nice image, right? You could start with simply caressing her seat with your hand, stroking it softly to sensitize the area, allowing her to relax and place her attention there. This helps her let go of her thoughts and settle into her body and all the wondrous sensations that it can give her. The caressing alone should be arousing, but the position of being disrobeped and over your lap also puts her in a groveling state of mind. Feeling that she is being controlled by you is essential in enabling her to “stay” with the sensations she will be receiving, to absorb it without mentally “running away”.
Your stroking and caresses now turn into *light* hand spanks definite in a regular rhythm over her cheeks. Is this “harrowing”? No, not in the slightest — it feels *good* — and is just a slightly stronger sensation than being caressed by your hand. However, one important element is being added… she is now being “strapped” and that word alone can have an incredible sexual charge for her. She’s no longer a girl who has to be in charge of the multitude of demands on her, but is now under your control. YOU are taking care of *her*. All responsibilities have been removed from her and she can start to let go of herself to just *feel* the sensations you are creating.
More thoughts on Spankings
Spankings in themselves are a fascinating study. They contain so many different and apparently contradictory emotions that it is difficult to sort them all out. Your first thoughts about spankings are probably connected to your childhood years, and if you reflect back for a moment childhood memories and emotions seem somehow bigger than life. The following list of emotions connected to spankings all relate directly to what a slaveslut *wants* to feel with her Dominant. There is a feeling of helplessness, of having no choice but to place herself over your lap. Her dress lifted out of the way and her panties pulled down so she is exposed to you. There’s also a feeling of embarrassment… here she is an porn, still being treated as a child. This sensation will be increased if you scold her and tell her to expose herself and wait for you to come to her. You might have her bend, bare-assed over a chair or couch to wait, then shift her to your lap if that is your preferred position.
During the spanking you are emphasizing that you are in control and she is accepting it. In fact, the harder the whacking is, the more your both feel your roles. If you are spanking her for a reason, you are demonstrating that you care enough about her to watch over her and correct her and she knows that when the flagellation ends, all will be over and forgotten so she can give herself permission to drop her own thoughts over her behavior and use the thrashing as a motivation to improve herself in the future.
Okay, back to the pleasure correctional discipline again. As she is laying across your lap enjoying the light spanks and feeling of being cringing, what she is probably wanting at this point is for you to start whipping harder! As her tooshie gets warmed up, the more used to the sensation she becomes. It now loses its initial intensity which increases the desire to feel something a bit stronger.
At this point as a Dominant, you can allow yourself to enjoy the power over her that she wants to give you. You can give yourself permission to spank harder thus emphasizing that you are the one in control and can do to her exactly as you please — which is very much what she wants to feel as a submissive.
Now the spanks become harder but she is ready for them and has been waiting for you to take away her to the next level of sensation. If you reach one hand underneath her and place a finger on each side of her clit, you can continue to hit her and simultaneously give her more direct sexual pleasure. The more aroused she becomes, the more her perception of the sting will modify and become transformed into that lovely combination of pleasure/pain that we love so much. (Again, it’s still not anguish but I have no better word.)
At this point, I’m given you’ll find her squirming over your lap. Is she quivering from the sting or from the pleasure? Good questions, isn’t it? The answer is that they both compliment each other, each sensation allowing her to more enjoy the other.
Many model can actually be spanked to a climax this way. The trick is to keep escalating her sexual arousal and then to withdraw the flagellation to the next level of sensation as she is ready to handle it. A corporal punishment undoubted in this way is a *peak* experience and one that becomes very addicting, especially if it results in a excruciating climax. Don’t put any pressure on yourself or her to cause a climax though. If it happens it happens and you don’t want to beat too insensitive or too long in the hopes of raising one or to give her the feeling that she will be displeasing you if she cannot climax.
Feedback during a lashing
During a flagellation like this, it is very important to get feedback from her as to how she is taking it. One thing I like to do is to have the chick thank me when I give her the “perfect” spank. A simple “Thank you, Sir” after the stroke does not put her in charge of the lashing at all. In fact, it will probably provoke her feel more subordinate to you as you are the one who decides if she gets another paddle of equal intensity or if it is time to push her to the next level. On your part, it is very reassuring to get this feedback from her as you can let go of any thoughts that you are “tormenting” her or going too far beyond what she can endure. Another idea is to tell her to lift up her bum to the work over as if welcoming its stroke. If you tell her this when the thrashing is the most erotic for her, the next time she may unconsciously offer her rump to you as a signal that she wants *more* of whatever you are doing to her.
Many Doms have their slaveslut rack up strokes. This has several advantages. First, it focuses their mind upon the activity. The more you shut down the mind, the deeper she can go into her submission and the more she will surrender control to you. The other advantage is that it lets you hear the tone of her voice so you can gauge how she is reacting to her spanking.
One point I’d like to produce is that it’s very difficult to ask her if she is enjoying it as you are giving her some good spanks. First, it puts her back into her critically thinking mind which is NOT what you want to do. Also, most skirt become very non-verbal at times like this and it will be difficult for her to say much of anything. This next point is very important to understand. As the flogging escalates she both wants/doesn’t want harder spanks. After your hand falls and the sting is at its greatest, she may not want another one. However, just a few seconds later she does… After her flogging, she’ll probably be wondering if she could have taken more.
Your strength as a Dominant is essential in evoking this all work. She wants the sensations and at the same time knows they will be a challenge to her. She is depending upon your ability to read her without asking, and in your strength and confidence in bringing her to a peak experience.
As the flogging intensifies, you’ll reach the point where she’ll be close to being overloaded. Maybe a few ouches are escaping from her. Do NOT be afraid of them. If she was not taken slightly beyond what she treasured, she would not feel as if she was truly being spanked. Instead, it would feel to her like it was something done just for her. It is essential to understand the pushing of her limits this way and touches upon a very meaningful part of her submission. She is taking the beating for *you*. When you are getting close to her limits, she will find it helpful if you lovingly tell her, “Withdraw it for me, sweetheart. Show me that you can remove a good thrashing for me.” This will often push her deeper into subspace which will allow her to accept more sensation. It is both a gift she makes to you, as well being a marvelous display of her submission. She wants you to enjoy the freedom to hit her as unmerciful as you may wish. This is an example of the balance inherent in both your roles. When beating her you are feeling your dominance and she is feeling her submission.
To be able to push limits, you must do a lot of pondering as to your motivation and intent. There is much self-exploration to be done before you trust yourself enough to really let loose with your masochist knowing it is what she wants and to be confident in yourself that you are not misusing her emotions toward you. To do so would be a complete betrayal of her love and trust in you and would have disastrous consequences.
Of course, in a loving relationship you want a balance between what you want and what she can handle and that is where much of the affective connection and incredible thrill is to be found. A good spanking should be like a dance between the two partners with you in the leash and she accepting and following.
The Spankings Conclusion
As the flogging is reaching its conclusion you may be hearing more “ouches” than moans of delectable pleasure. Let me talk about the “ouches” for a moment. Many women want to be trounced to this point and would feel cheated if they did not reach this level. When she has to struggle to brave out the sting, several things are happening. First is that to handle the increased intensity she will need to go deeper into her henpecked feelings. She is taking the flogging for *you* and an “ouch” is proof of that. This is much more important if the corporal punishment is firm as a discipline to correct her behavior than in a pleasure thrashing which is for both your enjoyment. At the same time, an “ouch” is a challenge of her, it test her ability to transform the sensation into something more pleasurable. Never underestimate the pride a cringing ladies takes in being able to absorb these kinds of sensations. It is part of her being a good masochist which is something she wants to be. It is inseparably linked to her love for you. She longs to give *you* pleasure by her submission and if she senses that you truly enjoy correctional discipline her (and I hope you do) she wants to be able to take away as much as you want to give.
At this point, you may want to slow down or even stop the spanks and resume some light caresses, enjoying the warm glow of her rear end while continuing to stroke her hooch so you can let some of the sting go away and at the same time build back up her level of sexual excitement. You may then want to resume the lashing or give her a climax in any number of marvelous ways which I don’t think you need me to instruct you on!
More Extreme Enjoyable Torture
For many girl, the spanking I described above would be considered very light and they crave something much more intense. Not all lady have this desire for greater intensity and everyone’s response is different. What they took one day they may not be able to approach the next. It all depends on their gaga, cathartic and physical state at the time. It does seem to be a rule that the deeper they are in subspace the more they can handle. This is a subject that you need to talk about in spectacular detail with your painslut and to explore very slowly and carefully with. I won’t get into the subject of safewords as a signal on when the pain slut is approaching or has reached her limits, but it’s something you need to research.
Here’s an excerpt from a conversation that talks a mini about how the perception of “horror” varies for everyone.
Why do you enjoy shock and erotic pain?
I don’t really experience it as pain. Somehow the neurons cold and what starts out as agony becomes interpreted as pleasure.
Even when it is very unmerciful?
Especially when it is very hard… The allowing of the very callous, seems to speed the transition to pleasure. A soft beat is not nearly as erotic as a callous work over, unless I know that a unkind one is going to follow. I *feel* the misery on my backside, but by the time it travels up to my brain, it *feels* great. It’s only when it’s really insensitive that I know I have truly given up control. I do like to feel that my spanker has my best interests at heart as well as taking his own pleasure…
If you have difficult as a Dominant in provoking the intensity of sensation that your slavegirl desires, here are a few things to think about that may help. First, go at your own pace. It is always better to do less than more. Watch her reactions to what you are doing to her. See how wet she is… Though she may not be able to verbally communicate this to you at the time, watch her body language and listen to the tone of her moans. If her body is pulling away from you, you may want to slow down. If she is creating herself more available to the spank she maybe non-verbally saying she wants more.
Ideas on making Lovely Torture
If your slave slut loves spankings, try placing her on her back with her legs widespread. Kneel beside her and using your hand, give her some light spanks on her mound and vulva. (If she is shaved, this works even better!) Start light and let the intensity slowly increase. Check her reaction. You may find that a combination of tough spanks followed by some quick and lighter spanks over her vulva and clit can result in a very intense climax for her. Try a soft flogger or the bristles of a hairbrush rubbing along her labia and clit. Use a paint stirrer on the labia until she squirms from the sting. Pinch just tush the clit, allure it away from her body and watch her rise to give you better access. It requires a unequalled deal of trust to allow you to pain this very sensitive part of her body – enjoy it!
Clit pegs are a nice touch to sensitize the area and expand the erotic pain. There are some designs that have bells or beads fixed to the clamp which is a wonderfully sweet reminder that she is your pleasure slave.