BDSM In South America

The South America has vibrant past and present regarding the human trafficking and abuse of women and children and during this turmoil time the word called BDSM came into the lime light even though this type of erotic sexual play has been popular in the Latin countries for a long but it was demarcated as a violent act and to be condemned if not performed with assent of both the partners as a whole.

The word “bdsm” (see examples at www.ThePainFiles.com) is needed to be clarified at first it is actually an act of sex which is better known as the “Bondage discipline or we can say dominance with sadism & masochism”. Throughput South America this kind of sexual act had been popular and the act takes the effect blend of violence, sex and erotic behavior of mankind to the extreme level. The South Americans are known to live a quite active sexual life in comparison to the North America and as the population is also pretty high in low boundary lines more and more young girls and boys turning their head towards the porn industry are reported to enter specially to this category of sexual acts as their specialization.

The bdsm is normally carried out under the assent of both the mates performing the act. In South America especially in Brazil,Uruguay,Argentina the porn industry truly revolves around this kind of sexual act as it has been reported almost 79% of the revenue comes under this category of act .Thus we can well understand the popularity of the act throughout South America but the cons are that when loads of young girls and boys from the deprived classes are forced to sexual assault and it has been restricted from the UN as a whole and it has been given under the penalty regime for the punishment under the law of “Abuse of women and children”. The stringent laws governing this kind of acts has taken a toll on the bdsm type of porn making industry at a large but this has not restricted the popularity of the bdsm type of sexual act at any level and the South American bdsm has been popular throughout the world.

The fine boundary line exists between the enjoyment and the abuse. The pain that is normally that the submissive goes through during this act has to be judged before the act and the dominant person takes the lead in this type of sexual act has to be well aware of the deficiencies and the pain tolerance power that has to be taken into consideration. The South American bdsm has the unique techniques those indeed new to the world. Normally in this procedures the instruments are used from chains, sticks, iron rod etc. to make the submissive go through a considerable amount of pain during sexual act and these pain giving instruments are indeed new and vivid to the Latin bdsm from the rest of the world. The overall bdsm porn industry in the South American province has been and still growing to an astonishing figure that is indeed one of the highest in the world after Europe. The thing that has to kept in mind is that too much viewing or performing these kind of acts not only disturbs the psychological peace and sanity it leads to an irregular sexual behavior that is indeed not good mentally or physically for both men and women and child viewing these type of acts via porn movies create a negative and wrong impression on the mind about sex and all the matters related to sex in any way.

Followup: Masochism, Pain Or Abuse?

Wow, this has turned out to be so much more interesting as a thread than I expected. I kinda wanted to keep my own opinions out of it, since I was the one judged as not understanding, but there’s a few points I feel I should answer and clarify from my own point of view…

Firstly, re; the mail itself:

Do I agree that someone who is ‘anti-pain’ and not having a good time should be able to stop a scene immediately? Yes I do. The points I disagreed with were as follows:

Please reflect fully on the effect of pain when someone is in the anti-pain state of mind (not masochistic). It is the infinite opposite of S&M and masochistic pleasure. Pain must NEVER be delivered when they are in this state of mind. Reflect fully on all the times you’ve done this on your site.

Reflection done – can’t think of an occassion that applies TBH. We hire masochists. Where it has turned out the scene as planned was not working for someone we have stopped and renegotiated something that suited them better. Most of the heaviest scenes were scripted by the girls themselves as things they wanted to try.

In the masochistic state of mind, a person:
– Never flinches away from the pain, but wants and moves towards it
– Never, ever cries from the pain, but moans in pleasure

I disagree strongly. This is true for some people – it is in no way a definition. People react differently to different stimuli, and people enjoy themselves in different ways. Personally, I have enough respect for women (and people in general) to believe they can make up their own minds and communicate what they want without me having to interpret it through my own reality filter.

If any doubt you must always check which of the 2 infinitely opposite states of mind the person is before any pain is given or continues. If they enter the anti-pain state of mind, all pain must stop immediately. Anything else is the opposite of S&M, and criminal and abusive.

I agree…

You’ve done this too many times on your site. Reflect on that suffering, not pleasure, as if it was being inflicted upon you while you are in the anti-pain, non-masocistic state of mind exclusively. Just reflect.

Ummm… no I haven’t

I don’t know if the original author will accept my invitation to read this thread, but if so, please read the comments and reflect.

@clover:

Plus they don’t seem to realise that your running a business and if your models suddenly decide ‘Oh I am not in a masochistic state of mind’ well thats no good at all when you have booked a crew and studio. I do CP stuff and sometimes I think I am not in the right headspace, but you find it or deal with it. Thats the responsibility of the model.

Thank you for your support, but wanted to comment on this particular point from my own ethical point of view.

Actually, while I’m sure you are right for many companies that’s not how I work. If someone is not happy during a scene they agreed to in advance, I will stop and re-negotiate. I pay for publication rights rather than levels, and the girls work to the levels they want to go to. I couldn’t live with myself if I thought anyone was going through some of the heavier scenes we shoot ‘for money’ or ‘because they agreed to’.

While it is expensive, and a huge pain in the ass, if we have to pull a shoot early, or change plans dramatically, I would always do that (and often have) before pressuring anyone to handle being beaten and tortured as ‘a job’

Responses to: Masochism, Pain or Abuse? (Part 2)

Responses to: Masochism, Pain or Abuse?

Anonymous – BDSM Model and lifestyle submissive:
“Another example of someone commending on S+M who seems as though they aren’t a sadist or a masochist.

I’m a masochist (self-identified) and I’ve been in a scene with Magick at least 5 times, as well as plenty of other people.

I scream from pain, cry, moan, gasp, cum, and scream. I writhe, wriggle, flinch, wince and shudder. The reaction to and opinion of pain is expansive, undulating and ever changing.

However it is, at all times, utterly consensual and absolutely wanted. It’s consensual, risk aware and, most importantly, deeply emotional and utterly subjective.”

Anonymous – BDSM Model and lifestyle slavegirl:
I cannot answer this from the point of view of a masochist as I do not identify as one … However I will answer from the point of view of someone that has filmed with Magick over the last ten years.

Do I like pain ? …. not especially lol … it will make me flinch, cry, scream, plead, writhe and exhibit all manner of “distress”.

Do I indulge in situations where I am subjected to pain ? .. HELL YES !!

For me it is the control .. it is being “forced” to endure .. to have no say .. to guess what ? …. to SUBMIT !! … it is absolutely nothing to do with S&M .. it is a huge part of the D/s side … That is what floats my boat and will produce one of the many many all consuming orgasms I have had on these film shoots.

If you read above you will see that many who do associate as masochists look as if they are hating every minute but gold help the Dom if they were to stop.

For some people pulling away and crying out may well be an indication that the pain must stop … For others it is nothing more than normal human reactions … To try and define such basic and instinctual human biology and emotions is impossible … every single person will react in a different way.

For me there is really only ever one question when these sorts of questions or statements are raised …. are the people involved doing so with full consent ? They are ? … well how they react to stimuli is not really up for debate.

If seeing those sort or reactions upset or offend you then you are probably best not looking at the sites … but please do not judge those that are having a dam good time and willingly come back for more time and time again.

My best analogy as to how I see taking part in these films ? … It is like someone giving me chocolate AND paying me to eat it”

Responses to: Masochism, Pain or Abuse?

Masochism, Pain or Abuse? Responses. Mainly Anonymised.

Anonymous response:
“Erm i am masso but i cry scream and run away from the pain. Id be upset if  someone stopped. Weve sadly not managed to arrange a proper play between each other but you are on my i want list as i trust you. I know many people who have played with you and they have all enjoyed it. I would say with confidence that you are not abusive. X”

From Nimue, english BDSM model:
“As someone who has worked with you on very, very many occasions over the past 6 or 7 years it must be, and also being someone who flinches away from the pain, screams and cries, I have to say, that this style of play is NOT abusive and criminal. It is the style of play I love to do! Just because I’m a masochist doesn’t mean that the pain doesn’t hurt – it just means that it hurts and i get pleasure from it, on some level.

From a personal point of view, I love the sort of play that has me crying and screaming. Crying can be incredibly cathartic, and for me, leaves me with a wonderful feeling of peace afterwards.

As someone who has worked as crew on the sites behind the camera for several years now as well, I know that most (if not all) of the most extreme ideas come from the models themselves. And often the models who are screaming and crying the most while the cameras are rolling, as soon as a cut is called, are talking calmly and rationally and if you saw just those moments, you’d never realise they were in the middle of living out an extreme bdsm scene. And at the end of the scene they have enjoyed the experience – I know I always have!

As far as I’m concerned, abuse is doing something that the sub/slave/slut/masochist/model doesn’t want, which is always something you take great care to avoid. There is always the opportunity for models (even mid-scene) to communicate that something isn’t working for them and to ask for the scene to change direction, or end entirely.

I could go on more, but I think I have rambled on enough for now, but I will be following the discussion with interest!”

Andrea, english fetish model and lifestyle sub:
What a great topic!! Okies i feel i should put my input in being Magicks R/L Submissive, I am very much a Masochist, in play I want, need pain, thats not to say i dont try and ecape it or flinch from it, the only way i can explain it is, the further im pushed , the more erotic and turned on i get, Magick over time has opened my mind to so many diffrent ways to deal with pain and has helped me to understand it and process it.

Yes i cry and yes i cry lots, does that mean i have to end the scene because tears are apparant??? Hell No!!! id be most dissapointed if it stopped because my reactions show to some im out of my depth, We all have diffrent veiws on how pain should be administrated and yes some take more than others, but that doesnt mean were weak minded and just stand the pain for the sake of it, to me that would just be russian roulette with yourself.

If i want to do something that is dangerous to some but more foreplay to me, Magick will take in to account the risks invovled and we will discuss it throughly before we try it etc.

Magick has built my Masochistic tendancies up throughout my D/s with him and he will read me very very well, he knows when im struggling and he will not push me further but he also knows when whatever hes doing, there will be tears, there will be screams and begging, but thats me responding to the pain as it flows through my body and mind, he knows that it excites me, and he knows that if i feel im serious trouble i will call RED!!!! and immediatly the play will stop, I have grown so much in myself over the time with him, and yes to some who dont understand masochists when you see someone crying and begging, it looks harsh, but you do have to understand that submissives/masochists are as much in control as the Top/Dominant, its all very equal in many ways, theyre giving you what you need, again some think because you cry easily, youre in serious pain, thats so not the case, its a release, a natral emotion, if youre doing it right you know you have the confidence to call a agreed safe word if you feel you cant cope or sense danger, however far that danger is for you depends on the Masochist, but i can honestly and truly say Magick has never taken me to anywhere i sure didnt want to go, he reads me/or whoever he plays with very well, if he feels i/they can go further he will take me/them there always with the understanding that if i/they need it to stop, he will stop. Despite what the eye leads us to belive, its is very consensual, you just have to look deeperand understand it thats all.

I trust Magick with my life, hence our Ds is very strong and healthy.”

Keep the responses coming to this most interesting topic!

Masochism, Pain or Abuse?

I recently recieved this email.

I would be interested in responses from anyone that knows me, or ideally has actually played with me (especially on the sites). I have linked the author of the original mail to this post, prior to seeing any replies, to allow him to judge openly how people might feel about his point of view:

“Please reflect fully on the effect of pain when someone is in the
anti-pain state of mind (not masochistic). It is the infinite opposite
of S&M and masochistic pleasure. Pain must NEVER be delivered when
they are in this state of mind. Reflect fully on all the times you’ve
done this on your site.

In the masochistic state of mind, a person:
– Never flinches away from the pain, but wants and moves towards it
– Never, ever cries from the pain, but moans in pleasure

If any doubt you must always check which of the 2 infinitely opposite
states of mind the person is before any pain is given or continues. If
they enter the anti-pain state of mind, all pain must stop
immediately. Anything else is the opposite of S&M, and criminal and
abusive. You’ve done this too many times on your site. Reflect on that
suffering, not pleasure, as if it was being inflicted upon you while
you are in the anti-pain, non-masocistic state of mind exclusively.
Just reflect.”

I feel the mail was intended to be polite and constructive, so please bear that in mind when posting comments here.

Lesson Learned – Chapter2

George looked over his two slaves. “I don’t think either one of you gets it,” he said.

He untied Natalie and led her to a large wooden frame. There were leather cuffs for her wrists and ankles on the frame. George used them, spreading her arms over her head and her feet beneath her so her body formed an “X.” Then he untied Stephanie and led her to a similar frame, strapped her in.

He stepped back. “I’ll be back later for your next lesson.”

Hours must have passed. Natalie had slept. She awoke with a tremendous thirst. George was back. The sound of the door closing behind him must have awakened her.

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George circled the two girls. They could see he was carrying a large, braided whip. “Your next lesson,” he explained, “is how to take your punishment.”

Natalie could feel her heart trying to leap into her parched throat! Her legs felt weak. Then Stephanie spoke.

“She said you’re a lousy lover,” Stephanie said.

“What?” Natalie cried, unable to hide the terror in her voice.

“Yes,” insisted Stephanie, “she said you’re probably making up for feelings of inadequacy, and she suspects you haven’t come to terms with your own homosexuality.”

“That’s a lie!” Natalie cried.

George had circled behind her. “That gives me a reason to punish you,” he said. Before Natalie could say anything, the whip came down across her back. She screamed! The pain burned into her back and shoulder! The whip came down again, and again she screamed!

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Tears stung her eyes, but she managed to speak clearly between her sobs. “She is lying! She wants you to punish me instead of her!”

The whip came down again, only this time on Stephanie’s back! She shrieked in pain! George lashed her again, relishing her screams.

Finally, he stopped. “What you both fail to understand,” he said, “is that I don’t need a reason to punish either of you!”

He let them down from the frames, gave them water, let them rest. Then he took them to the large bed in the Playroom.

He told Natalie to lay on her back. It was still sore from her flogging, but there were no open wounds. Natalie lay down obediently. George whispered to Stephanie, “Eat her pussy. Make it good.”

Stephanie almost hesitated, then thought of George’s backhand and settled between Natalie’s long legs. Stephanie kissed Natalie’s pussy lips and Natalie shuddered. She had never been with a woman before, and was surprised to learn she did not find it repulsive! Stephanie licked her slot, flicked her tongue over her clit.

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Natalie gasped, and began moving her hips rhythmically. George whispered to her, “Don’t you dare cum.” Stephanie slipped her tongue inside Natalie, who groaned loudly. As Stephanie began to fuck her with her tongue, George slipped behind Stephanie. He rubbed his stiff cock over Stephanie’s shapely ass. He began to fuck her, doggy-style, as she licked and sucked Natalie’s pussy.

Natalie gasped and moaned! Her pussy grew very wet! As George fucked Stephanie, he leaned close and whispered into her ear, “Make her cum!”

Stephanie went wild with her tongue on Natalie! She slipped two fingers inside her and moved them back and forth as she flicked her tongue over her clit! Natalie moaned loudly, knowing she must not cum until her Master said she could!

Finally, George pulled out of Stephanie and pushed her aside. He rammed his cock into Natalie’s cunt! “Cum for your Master!” he commanded!

Natalie wailed and wriggled as she came, her pussy milking her Master’s huge cock! He erupted inside her, filling her with his hot jizz!

She lay back, more than satisfied. She had learned to cum only when told to.

The End….

Lessons Learned

How Natalie had fallen into this bizarre situation concerned her less than the fact she had fallen into it. George was handsome and charming. What Natalie hadn’t known about him was that he was into bondage. In a big way. She had been shocked when he asked her to be his sex slave, but the idea thrilled her, so she had said yes.

Their fist “encounters” had been relatively simple – restraints, a ball gag, a few forced acts – nothing she couldn’t handle. Then she discovered something about George.

He had another slave.

Her name was Stephanie, and he had “acquired” her about the same time as Natalie.

Well, if “Master George” wanted two sex slaves, that was fine with Natalie. She would just have to make sure she was his favorite!

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George started training Natalie in obedience. It was straight-up sex, no restraints. He fucked her in his king-size bed, his thick cock pounding her tight, wet pussy. As her moans grew louder, he grabbed her hair and snarled, “You don’t cum until I tell you to cum!” She gasped, trying to maintain control. He fucked her long and slow, and she could feel every inch of his throbbing cock! Just as she thought she could hold out, he reached between their sweaty bodies and rubbed his thumb over her swollen clit! She moaned and bucked! A moment later, she came.

“Fuck!” George exclaimed as he pulled out of her. He slapped her face hard. “Did I fucking tell you to cum?”

“No,” Natalie said, whimpering.

George slapped her again, harder. “No, what?

Natalie cried out and cowered. “No, sir, you did not tell me to cum, sir.”

“How am I gonna get off when you already came?”

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Natalie hesitated, unsure how to answer. George grabbed her head in both hands and shoved his cock into her mouth! She nearly choked as he fucked her mouth fast and hard! In a moment his cock was spurting hot jizz down her throat!

When his orgasm subsided, George pushed her away. “Fuck, bitch, Stephanie has better control than that!”

A hatred for Stephanie began to smolder within Natalie. I will learn, Natalie resolved. I will learn to cum only when he tells  me to.

A few days later, George brought Natalie to his Playroom. Stephanie was already there, a tall, thin blonde with large breasts. George made them both strip and kneel, then tied each girl’s ankles and wrists together, and finished by tying their wrists to their own ankles behind them. Then he addressed them, rather formally.

“I have decided I can train you both faster if I train you at the same time,” he explained. Your first lesson is cocksucking. He removed his clothes. His prick was erect and throbbing.

He stepped over to Stephanie, ran his fingers through her hair. “Suck it,” he commanded. Stephanie kissed and licked his prick all over. “I said suck it!” George barked. He grabbed Stephanie’s head and shoved his cock deep into her mouth! She choked. He held her there until she began to wriggle and turn blue! Then he shoved her away.

He walked over to Natalie, his cock bouncing as he walked. He caressed her raven-black hair. “Suck it,” he hissed. Natalie wrapped her full lips around the head of his cock and took it deep into her mouth, sucking and moaning. George moaned, too, as she bobbed her head. In and out. In and out. Slowly fucking her warm, wet mouth! He looked over at Stephanie. “Like that, bitch!” he barked.

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George thrust hard and deep, and Natalie closed her eyes, swallowing his thick meat, trying to relax so she wouldn’t gag. She had to be better than Stephanie! Finally, he pulled his huge cock out of her mouth.

He walked back to Stephanie and grabbed her nipple, pulling and twisting. She cried out!

“When I say suck, you suck!” George explained. “Not lick, suck!

Stephanie bit her lip, whimpering in pain.

“Got it?” George demanded.

Stephanie nodded. George twisted harder!

“I can’t hear you!”

“Yes!” she fairly screamed. “Yes, sir, I got it!”

To be Continued ….

 

How Do You Spot a Healthy BDSM Relationship?

As with almost any subject about relationships, I think it’s difficult to say what are the things that we are looking for, as it’s a purely personal perspective between those involved. If your needs are being fulfilled, and you are fulfilling those of your partner(s) it’s healthy.

I don’t think there is anything sopecifically positive in BDSM that is exclusive to it – any of the positive aspects can equally be explored by vanilla partnerships in their own way if that is what they want… so is there anything intrinsically positive about BDSM? I’d say not.

It’s positive for me and my partners, because fulfilling that kink is one of our needs. In my case it can help a lot with trust and openness, but I don’t think BDSM is a prerequisite to those positives – just a tool i prefer to use over other approaches.

Sadists & Doms – Do You Switch?

Sadists & Doms – Do You Switch? Do you sometimes try out the submissive role, do you try the tools and tortures you make your sub or masochist endure to know how it feels?

I used to feel this way when i was younger.

I tried switching, but that rapidly proved to be pointless, since I didn’t enjoy it and could not pull off being submissive, or even handle pain well, so it in no way gave me any insight as to how the experience is for someone who craves it.

For many years I tried any new toys or experiences on myself first so I had an idea how they feel physically, though, obviously, just because I don’t like a sensation that gives me no indication how the experience would be for a submissive masochist. I still do try some new toys on myself first, if only to give myself an idea of the intensity etc.

However, I gave up trying everything I do when I started experimenting with things and bdsm tools I either cannot do to myself, or things which I really don’t want to experience.

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For instance, I am terrified of electricity. While that gives me sympathy for masochists who share my fear, it does not mean I’m goijng to try any new shock devices on myself, or that I’m not going to use them on others. The same goes for anal toys.

I’m more at a point now where something new which I am not willing to experience myself is tried on one of the slave girls in a non-play situation so that she can report back in detail how it feels etc.

Burning Needle Torture

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